{"id":14163,"date":"2014-03-19T13:03:57","date_gmt":"2014-03-19T17:03:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/?p=14163"},"modified":"2014-03-19T13:03:57","modified_gmt":"2014-03-19T17:03:57","slug":"a-farewell-to-robert-freedman-my-oldest-friend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/2014\/03\/19\/a-farewell-to-robert-freedman-my-oldest-friend\/","title":{"rendered":"A farewell to Robert Freedman, my oldest friend"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I learned Sunday that my oldest friend in the world, Robert Freedman, had passed away a few days earlier. Except for my mother and my younger brother, I&#8217;d known him longer than anyone on the planet&#8212;54 years, which is a startling length of time to contemplate.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedman.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedman-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"RobertFreedman\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-14164\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedman-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedman-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedman-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedman.jpg 1416w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We were in the same kindergarten class at Brooklyn&#8217;s P.S. 238, and continued together in the same class through the 5th grade. We were inseparable, with a similar sense of humor, always competing for the title of class clown. We&#8217;d trade whatever jokes we&#8217;d heard from comedians the night before on TV, which meant we were often chastised by teachers for talking too much or laughing too loud. But that wasn&#8217;t going to stop either of us from getting to the punchline of whatever joke Henny Youngman had told on <em>The Ed Sullivan Show<\/em> the night before!<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>After I&#8217;d completed the 5th grade, my family moved from Ocean Parkway to Canarsie, which to a kid of our ages at that time was like having moved to Mars. We didn&#8217;t see each other as often, but did keep in touch with phone calls that lasted for hours. We were still friends a decade later, when I married in 1976 and included him in my wedding party.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/WeddingParty.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/WeddingParty-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"WeddingParty\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-14165\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/WeddingParty-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/WeddingParty-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/WeddingParty-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/WeddingParty.jpg 1284w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s Bob on the far right. (And my brother and friend Allan Grosman on either side of me.)<\/p>\n<p>We remained in touch over the years, and would have deli from time to time as long as I continued to live in New York, but because  I bounced around  to Massachusetts then Maryland and now West Virginia, while he remained in Brooklyn, eventually our opportunities to physically occupy the same space became fewer. But we did manage to get together when I visited New York, such as in this picture from 2003. Sadly, these seem to be our only two joint photos.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-14168\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003-1024x1024.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/ScottEdelmanRobertFreedman2003.jpg 1612w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>When we&#8217;d get together, it would be as if no time had passed. Even though we had become different people with different interests&#8212;I&#8217;d have trouble telling you which teams competed in the most recent Super Bowl, for example, while Bob followed sports, especially his beloved New York teams, passionately, and was even a season ticket holder who tailgated&#8212;the connection was still there. <\/p>\n<p>Learning of Bob&#8217;s death, I was reminded of that famous line from <em>Stand By Me<\/em>: &#8220;I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anybody?\u201d Well, we knew each other long before we were twelve, and there was a closeness that remained regardless of the differing directions of our lives.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedmanGuitar.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedmanGuitar-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"RobertFreedmanGuitar\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-14170\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedmanGuitar-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedmanGuitar-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.scottedelman.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/03\/RobertFreedmanGuitar.jpg 636w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>We had a wonderful time when Bob visited us a few years back, and when we last spoke we were making plans for him to visit again during the spring. He played the guitar, and was tickled by my growing interest in the ukulele. We looked forward to jamming together this year, an opportunity which is now forever lost. But since Sunday, I&#8217;ve been strumming songs in his memory. I&#8217;ll continue doing that today.<\/p>\n<p>As well as thinking back on old Henny Youngman jokes, like this one, which I can close my eyes and see myself  leaning forward during class one day to whisper in Bob&#8217;s ear&#8212;<\/p>\n<p>A man comes home and finds the family car in the dining room. &#8220;How did you get the car in here?&#8221; he asks his wife. &#8220;Easy,&#8221; she says. &#8220;I took a left at the kitchen.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>You laughed then, Bob. I can imagine you laughing now.<\/p>\n<p>Farewell. Rest in peace.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I learned Sunday that my oldest friend in the world, Robert Freedman, had passed away a few days earlier. 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